I’ve spent a few blogs criticizing advice and certain points journalists have made about attraction. Now, I think it’s time to praise what I consider a positive journalistic effort. Every month in Glamour magazine, this guy Jake talks about a specific dating issue. This is supposed to give women insight into the male mind. He has his annoying moments that make me roll my eyes and think, “typical man,” but he also has some enlightening ideas to share from time to time.
In his article, The Thrill After the Chase, in the September issue, Jake explains how two people can stay in love after the chase is over and the couple gets comfy and cozy together. My favorite aspect about this advice is that it involves no game playing whatsoever. I love the part about trying new stuff together. I completely agree with him. Just because two people have been together for a while doesn’t mean the excitement has to end. If a couple is creative enough, they can think of new date ideas, hobbies, and maybe even discover new passions, like Matt who discovered how much he enjoys traveling.
It was so liberating to read the section under “You can finally drop the act.” Finally, here is someone who says there should be no act! I understand why people want to put their best foot forward in the very beginning of a relationship, but it is definitely a nice feeling to be able to relax and not worry so much about impressing the other person. To drop the act and show your true self, is the only way to know if it’s real love. It is at this point that you know if this is the person you want to stay with. Unfortunately, some people never reach this stage because they are too busy playing games and creating something superficial.
The last bit of reasoning was heartwarming. “You know someone’s got your back,” highlights the fact that when you are confident in your love for someone, you feel there is nothing stopping you. The sky is the limit. I found a new respect for Jake at the end when he said, “I’ll take that over the thrill of the chase anytime.”
Now this is wisdom that is truly empowering to men and women. It emphasizes the joys of true love and encourages men and women to be adventurous, honest, and happy with what they have established. Good work, Jake. Keep it coming!
